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diligence

2 Jan

I’m back today talking about the next two verses in my study on Proverbs 31.  I didn’t mean to skip last week but it happened because of two little words: THE HOLIDAYS.

Need I say more?

My thoughts on the next two verses are pretty short and sweet. In comparison to my other posts in this series. The next two verses are:

“She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.” Proverbs 31:18-19

I’ve really taken this past week to think on, pray over and really meditate on these two verses. And what I think it comes down to is DILIGENCE.  She is diligent.

The first part of the verse says that she sees that her trading is profitable.  I personally think that this means that she really sees that ALL she does is profitable. And profitable according to the dictionary means: beneficial or useful. So it doesn’t JUST mean financially profitable. She makes sure that all she does is beneficial. Beneficial to her husband, her family, her friends, her work, her ministry. ALL she does is beneficial and with a purpose.

Her lamp does not go out at night.

She COMPLETES what she’s started. And she does it well. She chooses to do the things that are only of benefit. She is not a ‘yes’ woman. She knows her limit and how full to fill her plate. And of those things that she fills her life with, she completes the tasks at hand. She is literally up late working. And being diligent with what she’s committed to.

In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

Not only do I think that she was DEFINITELY up late sewing her kiddos clothes from the previous days play, but I also think this verse goes hand in hand with what I just talked about.

DILIGENCE.

She is diligent in the details, holding the distaff and grasping the spindle. Diligence means constant and earnest effort to accomplish what was undertaken. To be diligent in your work, your life, your family requires constant effort. But to truly have the freedom to be diligent in your life, it means we have to chose what we do WISELY. We can’t do or accomplish it all. We need to make sure that what we are setting out to do will truly be beneficial to our families and our lives. And then work at those things with commitment and diligence. Starting what we can accomplish and then accomplishing what we start.

There’s not one thing about this Proverbs 31 woman that doesn’t amaze me. And still in today’s time, we can learn so much from her and God’s design for us as women.

Be encouraged today. Start this new year out not by taking on too many things that you can’t complete them all. But by deciding what is beneficial and working at those things with commitment and DILIGENCE.

Easier said than done, but so worth it.

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more than rubies

30 Oct

I’m doing a study of Proverbs 31 on my own. I feel like I always find myself coming back to this passage in my life. And I feel like there’s a lot of wisdom to be gained from REALLY understanding what the passage is actually saying. I find myself constantly having a deep desire to BE this woman. And I know that I have a long way to go before I AM actually her. I wish I could actually know what woman Proverbs 31 is referring to.

Don’t you wish you knew?

I really look up to her. Is that weird? I find myself really WANTING to be all of these things. But it is SO hard. So I decided to somewhat dissect each verse- maybe one or two at a time- from this passage. I’m going to write my thoughts and what I’m getting out of it. I’d love for you to follow along and to gain inspiration of your own from this woman. I feel like it’s so easy to lose sight of what ACTUALLY is important in life as a wife, mom, and woman. And when I feel that way I often turn back to these written words of wisdom to find my way. And it really helps me to put things into perspective. And it really helps me to get my thoughts, actions, and life back on track.

So here’s some short, quick thoughts on the very first verse about the wife of noble character. Whoa. It’s already heavy, right? HA.

“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” Proverbs 31:10

NOBLE character? WHO can find? This passage is describing a RARE woman. A woman who is hard to come by. One who is unique and who is cherished FAR more than even rubies. In a lot of countries, rubies are VERY precious stones and highly esteemed. This verse says that she is worth far more than that.

When I looked up the word noble in the dictionary, these are some of the words and phrases I found:

– of an exalted moral or mental character or excellence

– very impressive or imposing in appearance; stately; magnificent

– of an admirably high quality; notably superior; excellent

– famous; illustrious; renowned

You could fill in the word noble with any of those synonyms. A wife of MAGNIFICENT character. A wife of EXCELLENT character. A wife of RENOWNED character. A wife of EXALTED character. A wife of IMPRESSIVE character.

Who can find her? Because to those that DO find her, she is worth FAR MORE than RUBIES.

I know this isn’t groundbreaking. I know that I’m not revealing any brand new information here. But I AM going to admit to you that when I look at this verse this way, I am totally taken aback. The whole part of this chapter starts off by asking a question. Asking who really can find a woman or wife like this? Because she is rare. And she is precious. And she is very hard to find.

I’m not sure how to become this woman, exactly. But I know I want to be her. Already, one verse in, I desire to be her.

be who you are

4 May

This sums it up today. Sometimes I leave conversations thinking and feeling insecure about any and everything that I said. Did they like me because of the things I said? Do they not like me because of the things I said? Are they going to talk bad about me behind my back because of the things I said?

You know you think it too.

I hate insecurity. So much. But this rang true to me today. And reminded me that I am the one who chooses to surround myself with people who either like me FOR ME or don’t. Those that stick around regardless of what comes out of my mouth are the keepers anyways.

Not that bad things are coming out of my mouth. I just like to speak my mind and I’m not afraid to say what I think. I don’t mean to be intense, it’s just who I am.

It’s a work in progress. Aren’t we all?

* Image from HERE.

simply adorable

24 Feb

Ok, how cute is THIS? This Fortune Cooke Coin Purse is absolutely adorable. And it comes with a printed fortune inside! SO FUN. I love fun things like this that do nothing but make you smile.

Definitely on my favorite things list. Not that I have a list, really. But if I did, this would be on it.

* I found this lovely item and photograph HERE.

not just a mom

13 Jan

I had a great day today.

Part of it had to do with the fact that I was able to get out of the house- ALONE- today. I went to coffee with a client/friend and I went grocery shopping- ALONE.

So that was refreshing. It was just really nice to get out kiddo free for awhile.

Things are getting better, I think. I guess it’s hard to tell just by a few days. But I honestly am starting to feel better. There haven’t been many tears shed by yours truly in the past few days and I’ve actually gotten some sleep too. I re-started doing Weight Watchers again, since I severely fell off that wagon weeks ago. I started going to a Bible study and I’ve set up a weekly coffee date with a very close friend of mine who I can confide in about anything. I’ve known her for years and she’s one of the people I’ve really been missing since she used to live down the street from me. So it’ll be great to have adult time with her every week. I started reading again- I’m in a Book Club and have been for the past 4 years. Ever since I’ve had Cruz, I have really slacked at finishing reading the books that we’ve read. And I love to read. And I’m obsessed with my amazing girls that are in the Book Club with me. So I’ve committed to myself to reading again and I cannot put the book down that I am reading right now. I’m enrolling in a dance class. That’s right- you heard me. A dance class. I majored in dance for two years while I was in college and I started dancing when I was 6. Here’s a picture to prove it:

I love to dance and while I’m absolutely not anticipating going professional with it again, it IS great exercise and something I really enjoy doing. And it’s a huge goal of mine to get rid of the baby weight. I don’t have much to go, but I really gotta get rid of the rest of it. So I’m going to dance. Not tap, but probably jazz or maybe ballet again.

So what’s the point to all this?

What I’m saying is that I’m figuring out ways to focus on ME more. I am a mom, yes. But it’s not ALL that I am. And while I haven’t forgotten this, my life was starting not to reflect this as much. Meaning, I haven’t really been taking care of myself much. I’ve been too focused on getting the hang of having two kids and working. And that means I’ve just been in the apartment a lot, focused on EVERYONE else but me and taking care of myself.

So after I went to the doctor, I took a step back and evaluated what my week looked like. And there wasn’t really one single thing during my week that didn’t include Cruz & Rider in it. It didn’t take me long to take a mental inventory of all the things I used to do the fulfilled me and enriched my life before I had kids and I realized that I had started to abandon those things. I haven’t really had anything that I’ve been doing that is just for ME.

And that’s not the mom I want to be.

I always want to be the mom that has other focuses, dreams, goals, activities. I don’t want to be the mom that ONLY talks about her kids, their schedules, their sleeping/eating habits etc. Because after all, I AM my own person still, you know? Just because I’m a mom doesn’t mean I’m not still a women. And while I have changed a lot since having kids, I’m not ONLY a mom. It’s not what defines me. It’s a huge part of me and my life and I’m super proud of it. It does take up most of my day, every day. And it will for the rest of my life. But there’s still a huge other part of me that is still ME and still likes doing other things and has other interests. I know this is so incredibly simple. Everyone knows this stuff, right? But it’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day of being a mom, the stresses, exhaustion, and chaos that follows having children, and to forget what life was like before them.

I was starting to do that.

And I just really started losing sight of all the things that I loved prior to them entering my life. So I readjusted a few things and on top of feeling better, I actually am starting to feel excited about doing several things that are just for me. It’s so important to remember who you are as a women, and not just a mom. Being a mom is something that I am and something that I do. But it’s not all that I am or do. It’s not all I want to talk about. It’s not all I want to think about. While it is something that I love doing and cherish every day, it is really nice to have breaks where you can just be a woman. Someone who still has hopes, dreams, and desires for herself that aren’t only about being a mom. It’s nice to do things for yourself that you loved doing before they were born. And it’s ok to be away from them to do them. Not only is it ok, but it’s good for you and for them too.

I’ve just been caught up with being a good mom and wife that I’ve completely forgotten to take care of me.

Well, a few things are changing. And I am so glad that they are. I know I can be a better mom if I focus on myself a little bit. It’s so important to still nurture yourself. You can’t give of yourself if you are empty. And I’ve got two little boys that deserve the best from me.

I can feel the weight lifting a little bit. And it’s an amazing thing.

PS: Andrea & Alex, we NEED to go to Sedona again. Seriously. How fun was that?? And remember this?

He was SO little and SO cute. Aw.