forgiveness- revisited

13 Feb

I wrote a post over a year ago about forgiveness. I have been thinking about it a lot lately, and so I wanted to repost it here. Sometimes I really like going back and seeing what was on my heart over a year ago. It shows me how much I have or haven’t grown. And reminds me of the journey that we are ALL on as people. And it frightens me that someday I’ll have to explain forgiveness to my two little boys, not only in a way that they’ll understand it. But also in a way that they will see me living it out in my own life.


Anyways. I hope this post encourages you, no matter what or who you are struggling with. Sin sucks. We all deal with it. We all wound one another.

And we all struggle with forgiveness.

Repost from December 2009

I’m learning a lot about forgiveness right now. It’s not an easy lesson to learn, and can cause a great deal of pain. I’m not only learning what it looks like to truly forgive someone, but also what it looks like when someone doesn’t forgive YOU. Even if you’ve asked several times. This is one of the things that is causing a great deal of anxiety because I’m not really sure what to do if you’ve truly asked for forgiveness, apologized for a wrong, and it still isn’t accepted. Do you keep asking? Do you let the anxiety of it not being accepted just fester? Do you wait for time to heal your heart?

We always just expect people to forgive us, especially once we’ve asked. And once I’m aware that I’ve wronged someone, I really like to try to fix/clear up any issues that there may be. I really value my friends and family and don’t want there to be unresolved issues. There isn’t any reason why we as adults can’t communicate and clear the air.

So what do you do once you’ve done as much as you can, and it doesn’t matter? You’ve asked for forgiveness, apologized more than once, and it’s still not received. Do you let the friendship go? Do you try harder? Do you just forgive them for not forgiving you?

A lesson in forgiveness will be one that I will continually learn through the course of my life. We are human, after all. And while we do love one another, we are going to wound each other. I’m trying to surround myself with people who get that and who want friendships that can be built on the foundations of love, forgiveness and mercy.

And I’m trying to pray for the others who don’t.


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