date night

12 Dec

Date nights have to be one of my favorite things ever. Jason and I used to have date nights all the time- especially since we’ve been married. We always said that once we had kids that that would be one thing we’d always hang onto.

Well, we had a kiddo and the first thing to go was a constant date night.

It wasn’t intentional or entirely our fault. When we decided that I was going to stay home full time with Cruz, our finances were cut in half. So there wasn’t much money- at all- to just be doing much extra. We’ve had months where even buying an ice-cream cone at McDonald’s would have been a big time bad move on our finances. So movie night/dinner dates/coffee dates were definitely not always a possibility.

Time was also an issue. We started our own business, which has completely taken off, and almost all of our extra time has gone into editing- which takes hours and hours and hours. We definitely love it and it’s a creative process for us and we work together. But editing for an entire evening is not date night. And our business is our livelihood right now, so we can’t really afford to let it slip by the wayside.

But the other issue is that we just haven’t made it a big priority like we normally have. And it’s taken it’s toll a little bit in the sense that we just feel like we are always working- all of the time. We need a break too and we need a regular one without Cruz.

So we went on a date night last night and it was so much fun! We both agree that we have to get back to having a weekly date night. And that is our commitment. To make sure that we are constantly doing the things that we’ve always loved to do together. This whole season has really made me realize that marriage takes a lot of work. And I wouldn’t give anything that we have to be newlyweds again. Life definitely gets so much better as the years go by because we have experience behind us and we grow together. But we’ve always said that we never want to stop dating, even when we’ve been married for 25 years. And that’s a good thing because no matter how hard life gets, I never want to stop dating Jay.

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4 Responses to “date night”

  1. Carrie Stribling December 12, 2009 at 10:24 am #

    you guys are freakin CUTE!!!!

  2. Lindsay Guard December 12, 2009 at 11:52 am #

    Love it! But, one question….where were you in the first picture that you were dressed up so pretty but eating hot dogs?? 🙂

  3. Shea Williams December 12, 2009 at 2:58 pm #

    My adorable kids!!!!

  4. Sarah December 14, 2009 at 12:52 pm #

    Date nights are my absolute favorite too! As long as you keep up this good attitude you’ll never lose them. They’re just being postponed for a little bit! Another idea that Jake and I have to do sometimes is just do a nice dinner at home. And not nice like you have to buy filet and shrimp, but just make a big bowl of spaghetti, find a sitter for Cruz, and sit at the table with candles going and pretend you’re in Lady and the Tramp! Just enjoy eachothers company. That’s all that really matters.

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